Hello dear students and friends,
March is an exciting month for me. Get your calendar's out and pencil in the fun events! Each year, I produce "Brain Awareness Week" in conjunction with www.dana.org. I am passionate about the brain, and mostly passionate about ways that the brain regenerates, improves and self heals when given the right type and amount of stimulation. I have witnessed how Nia and all the principles and exercises we do in class have improved how my brain functions and would like to share this experience everyone. Will you help me? For each new student that comes to class during the month of March, from your referral, you'll receive a bonus free class on your cards. Just ask them to say you sent them. I have extra schedules and beautiful brochures coming for you to leave around town. Thank you so much for sharing your Joy , and for practicing Nia with me.
1. Nia Western Caribbean Carnival Cruise: Deposits due on March 5th . I have sign up papers in class or you can email Lynn Atkins at cruiseforyou100@aol.com or email me and I can forward them to you. These sheets explain the pricing and options. We can connect you with another Nia student for a roommate if you need that.
2. Guts and Grace Playshop: Experience Yin/Yang and how to bring them into your body, mind, emotions and spirit more consciously to create more harmony. Saturday March 6th 1-3pm . Fee: $35 ahead, or $45 at door. I am seeking 10 curious and open students ready to explore under the surface. Please rsvp by email/phone by 3/6 your intent.
3. FREEDANCE Master Class: March 13th 12-1:15pm fee: $15 at door or $10 if rsvp by 3/12. Shorter than a playshop, you'll briefly learn about the 8 stages of Freedance, and then dance straight for an hour through them. Similar to "trance dance" or "Ecstatic Dance" as there is no choreography. Yet, the form of the stages will give you an anchor to gradually open up your body to new creative ways of moving.
4. BRAIN AWARENESS WEEK: March 15-22nd. Every class will have a master class feel and be extended 15 minutes where possible. Go on a journey into your brain, and discover in each class how a different part is utilized and how that is stimulated in your Nia practice. Take this week of classes as deep as you'd like. There will be optional "homework" suggestions you can play with. You'll leave the week gaining an awareness of how your mind works, how the anatomy of the brain is designed, and how to optimally enhance function of the brain. The latest in brain research will be shared and some short discussion on brain diseases and how Nia can help specifically.
5. SEEDS Group Coaching experience with Kelly: Seeds stands for "sacred energy expands desires swiftly". -begins 3/20 Saturdays 11:30-12:30pm
WHAT: It's the name of a pilot group coaching series that I am offering. This specific group will focus on creating a personal vision for wellbeing, clarifying goals, and finding small steps each week that will bring you closer to that vision over time. Wellbeing includes everything in your life that effects your health. Visions of more energy, healthier environmental surroundings, organized, high functioning, able to relax, healthy time management, stress control, exercise, nutrition, healthy weight, more joy are some examples.....it can be any of these or more. Everyone can improve some aspect of their life, and working in a group is a powerful and speedy way to expand this wellness. We'll gather, get present, talk a little about coaching vs. teaching, and everyone will have an opportunity to share in a balanced way.
DATES: Four sessions over the next 8 weeks. Meet on Saturdays after class 11:30-12:30am at Saradance. 1st session : 3/20, 2nd session 4/3, 3rd session 4/17, 4th session 5/1. Must commit to all these sessions to participate.
FEE: This is an experimental "beta" group. This means it's a pilot program I am pricing especially low, and asking for your feedback along the way. This price will go up next time. $39 for all sessions ( that's less than $10 per coaching session, and you'll have the group energy to further charge you up on your path!!!!)
Who?: Specifically, I am looking for 8-12 individuals interested in living life with more pleasure and enhancing the joy of creating more wellness through visioning and taking baby steps toward that vision in a group setting. I am looking for those interesting in integrating more of what they want into their lives with grace and with the cycles of nature as inspiration. Those cycles include; Sowing, Germination, Sprouting, Proliferation, Budding, Blossoming,and Fruition
5. Nia JAM : Wednesday March 24th 9:15-10:30am . Fee: same as regular class. Nia JAMS are when a group of Nia teachers each teach different songs and "jam" the way musicians do. Expect heightened energy, big Joy, and an amazing experience of collective creativity.
6. Autumn Teneyl Trunk Show and Cocktail Party: Wednesday March 24th before and after class 8am -12pm. Autumn Teneyl clothing is delightful and flattering clothes with interesting materials and patterns. Perfect for dance or everyday into night elegance. She has created a new line of specific "Nia Wear" that you can buy only at trunk shows - not on the website. It's also a little less expensive and there are smaller pieces ( like skirts and little jackets) that are $30 and up. I am offering an evening cocktail party at my house from 5-9pm this same day, for your convenience. Feel free to come to one or both times and enjoy the camaraderie and fun of trying on new clothes and shopping in a comfortable environment. There is no pressure to buy....come and enjoy the art. Please rsvp if you are coming to the evening party.
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Wednesday, February 24, 2010
Thursday, January 7, 2010
space, stepping in, flow
Today's tidbit is about flow, space , and stepping in....
This time of year it's always fun for me to teach class as there is often an influx of new to Nia students. Lot's of people set intentions for the new year, and want to get some movement going. It's so fun to hear their comments at the end, and most recently I am finding that the new students seem even more ready than ever to receive the promise of Nia. That promise being moving the body/mind/emotions/spirit to find both fitness and pleasure at the same time. One of the things that I am sure new students feel is how the space itself feels different than a traditional fitness space. As I am looking at potential space for a Nia studio I spend time thinking about Saradance. Saradance has it's perks and it's downfalls, one of the perks being we have danced there for 10 years. We have created space there through 7 Nia White Belt Intensives, and we collectively have danced through many life transitions in that space.
I am very interested in noticing how I relate to space. This includes noticing how I can shift it, change it, stagnate in it, be repelled by it, bounce off it, or communicate with it...and on an on. I can put space between myself and another, I can fill space up, I can clear it literally and figuratively. I also know it's easy for me to judge space itself as either "good" or "bad" when space is really just that, it's space. It gives me sensation. Space is invisible yet it can be felt very clearly through the skin, the senses, and breath. When I feel I don't have enough space, I am often focusing more on that which is taking up the space vs. noticing the space available. My breathe is effected by this perspective from me. I can blend and harmonize with space, slap it, tickle it, ignore it.....it's endless..yet what I give to space effects what I get out of it. Sound like a love relationship?
As Nia teachers, we practice "creating space" through stilling the body and mind. It is a practice that is valuable in and out of Nia class. You can create space for any activity, creative pursuit, relationship,or idea. The art of creating space is to bring your body, mind, emotions and spirit in to complete stillness at will. Neutral. A group of people creating this stillness together is even more effective at expanding the space. It is quite simply, noticing space versus noticing noise, or what's filling up the space. What you notice expands. What a group notices expands more.
At the beginning of Nia class, there is a shift in the space when everyone arrives. Often it's a little frenetic. People going this way and that. Greetings, getting things ready, using the bathroom, etc. Then with cycle 1, we all get on the same "page" when I set focus and intent. Cycle one helps harmonize the group. This helps everyone to get their bodies and minds directed.
Cycle 2 is the actually or metaphoric "step in". Doing something physically as an action to prepare and let go of any distractions. Saying to the mind " I let go of anything outside this room .". This stepping in is vital to increase the space around us all. This step creates the needed flow to move into cycle 3 warming up. Once this is done, the space feels different. To me, it's as if the space itself says "ahhhh, thank you for recognizing me!". Step 2 is a vital bridge that prepares the body and mind.
My tip for you today, is to notice something in your life that you either feel struggle, contraction, or stagnation around, or that you'd simply like to see more "flow" with. Ease....Set your focus on that. Perhaps it's some personal intentions for 2010. Intend to have movement. Do something physically that initiates a letting go of distractions. It can be stepping through a door, 3 claps, facing different directions and making it more ceremonial or whatever you can make up. What you do doesn't matter so much as long as it's purpose is to let go and become more present. Enjoy warming up into the next cycle and keep dancing through life with Nia! I hope this note inspires you in some way. As always, if you wish to be removed from my email list, or if you know of someone who would enjoy these Nia tidbits , just pass it on or let me know. Love, Kelly
Kelly Atkins http://www.niawithkelly.com/©Black Belt Nia teacher ©ACE certified personal trainer©Certified Wellness Coach- Coach "K" ©PhysicalMind Institute Certified Pilates Mat teacher
Sunday, October 11, 2009
Nia and Martial Arts
Punches, Blocks, Chops, fists, spear finger, kicks, knee sweeps, and stances are all moves borrowed from the martial arts. Every Nia class utilizes some variation of these moves blended with dance. In martial arts, the hands are trained to be so skilled they become a weapon when used in combat. Each of these movements conditions the body in unique ways, like the front kick gives us stability in the ball joint, grounded foot, and agility in the thrust of the kicking leg. The kick also allows us an opportunity to breath out and make sound as a way to naturally strengthen core muscles. Timing and measurement of where to place the foot further challenges our mind/body connection.
The upward/outward/inward/downward block all are great opportunities to practice with "yes" and verbal "no's" as we center and practice technique of movement through the shoulder joint. This is also a good time to have the martial arts attitude( depending on whether it's Tai chi - patience, Aikido - peaceful warrior or TKD defense/attack) beyond the move, and to access how we utilize our personal energy. The verbal words of yes, no, are a way to stimulate emotions as well, and even to empower a "no" or a "yes" with different meaning.
The moves along with a loud or whispered "yes" or "no" are effective at uniting the emotional body with the physical and with our core. Add to this moving and measuring how we balance our own energy throughout the class and with all the moves. The "simple" technique of adapting the moves to fit ones body, vs. copying the moves the way the teacher demonstrates them builds confidence. It's also a way of strengthening a relationship with self ( through being responsive and confident in your process) which in turn opens up new ways of being in relation to others.
In Aikido it's described as being vertically aligned first. Aligned with your center, the earth, the sky, your spirit, ( independence), and then relating horizontally without losing one's verticality. Being overly horizontal (co-dependent)would be like losing energy constantly by worrying about everyone around you, or having weak boundaries internally/externally or overly concerned with boundaries over all. This would be the sense of falling forward during a kick, or leaning forward during a block in a stance.
A sense of balance of being true to oneself, and yet also relating with others , even and especially in conflict, would be the desired Aiki approach. This is an example of one way to bring Nia "dancing through life" into your life.
I hope you find this tidbit helpful, I always enjoy the moment to reflect and bring forth these notes. How's your verticality today? Aho, Kelly
The upward/outward/inward/downward block all are great opportunities to practice with "yes" and verbal "no's" as we center and practice technique of movement through the shoulder joint. This is also a good time to have the martial arts attitude( depending on whether it's Tai chi - patience, Aikido - peaceful warrior or TKD defense/attack) beyond the move, and to access how we utilize our personal energy. The verbal words of yes, no, are a way to stimulate emotions as well, and even to empower a "no" or a "yes" with different meaning.
The moves along with a loud or whispered "yes" or "no" are effective at uniting the emotional body with the physical and with our core. Add to this moving and measuring how we balance our own energy throughout the class and with all the moves. The "simple" technique of adapting the moves to fit ones body, vs. copying the moves the way the teacher demonstrates them builds confidence. It's also a way of strengthening a relationship with self ( through being responsive and confident in your process) which in turn opens up new ways of being in relation to others.
In Aikido it's described as being vertically aligned first. Aligned with your center, the earth, the sky, your spirit, ( independence), and then relating horizontally without losing one's verticality. Being overly horizontal (co-dependent)would be like losing energy constantly by worrying about everyone around you, or having weak boundaries internally/externally or overly concerned with boundaries over all. This would be the sense of falling forward during a kick, or leaning forward during a block in a stance.
A sense of balance of being true to oneself, and yet also relating with others , even and especially in conflict, would be the desired Aiki approach. This is an example of one way to bring Nia "dancing through life" into your life.
I hope you find this tidbit helpful, I always enjoy the moment to reflect and bring forth these notes. How's your verticality today? Aho, Kelly
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
The Body Reveals itself to us!
Today's tidbit relates to the Nia Principle that the Body reveals itself to us when we listen. This is the principle called "The Body's Way" and all of Nia is built from this. The Body's way meaning that we can look to the design and function of any part of the body, and find the potential and possibility of that part, and compare it to what is happening in our own body. Closing this gap is the art of healing. It requires presence, each and every day, and moment, for that matter, as the body is always speaking to us and we may miss the whispers and only listen when the body is screaming at us. Often we spend more time in the past, recollecting what has happened prior than to be present to what is happening now. Our bodies are different, and changing all the time. Our bodies are a reflection of our thoughts ( this is a great reminder to consider changing your thoughts about aging and the body) Collecting the fine details of sensations and offering stimulation that then feeds back more information. This is the healing circle- all the while the mind offering the statement of " Now i am healing".....This can be happening while we are in life, while we do the things we do each day. While brushing teeth, cooking, getting dressed.
Another aspect of The Body's Way is recognizing that our bodies are energy. Science tells us that every muscle, bone, organ, even our thoughts are a moving energetic vibration. Everything is made up of energy, the more dense ( like a chair for instance) the slower the vibrational rate. The body can hold onto energy , and create a density, that may inhibit our ability to remain physically, mentally , and emotionally healthy. This often happens when we become too entrained, and too much in our "heads" thinking things intellectually versus experiencing life through the body with no inner dialogue. Thoughts like " stand up straight", "keep knees behind toes" and linear movements that make logical sense actually tense up the body and inhibit the natural flow of movement. It is this inhibition, this tension , that creates illness or holding of excess energy that blocks full health. When you release physical or emotional tension, the body moves with more pleasure, ease and wellness increases.
One of the best ways to open into moving the body in an organic natural way, releasing the "training's" and thinking mind, is to practice the first stage of healing. This stage is called "embryonic" , this is where we begin to move without thinking. The intelligence of "preverbal" comes forth. Our Body's are designed to know how to move without us having to be told or to recall from a thinking place. Embryonic is the state of unlocking that wisdom, and allowing our bodies to unfold for us the path. The body can then re-order itself without the thinking mind creating tensions.
To begin embryonic, lie on the floor and hug knees in. Begin to move randomly as if you are in a bubble supported by a sea of water. Allow your limbs to feel buoyant. Sometimes reaching, twisting, from the right or left, or belly down. This is all sensation, and allowing your body to move in ways that feel pleasure able. Once embryonic is practiced for a bit, it's helpful to move through the other developmental stages with the same preverbal state that you have cultivated. ( creeping, crawling, standing and walking) This is a great way to be in the moment, and can be a state that is called on at any time during the day while you do other activities. Enjoy! Love, Kelly
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
From the Inside Out- My Nia Story
Hellllloooo ,
First I wanted to send out an apology for not being more regular with the tidbits. I am feeling a lot these days that when my window of opportunity to write opens, it feels like my well is dry, and that I just need time to stare into space to clear the way. The second a creative inspiration comes in , my attention is needed somewhere else and the thought drifts out to the ethers. I wonder if this is what Attention Deficit feels like and I have a new empathy for that challenge. Thank goodness I have Nia to dance a connection to myself, or maybe I would become one of the many mothers I hear from that become so absorbed in their roles, that they forget to care for their own souls and then spend years later recovering!.
So this is one of the rare moments. I have been asked to write about why I teach Nia and feel so strongly about Nia as a fitness and well being practice. It's been an interesting process for me to consider who I was when I first took a Nia class, how I have changed, and what I love most about Nia now. I am considering how much of me changed naturally, whether I took/teach Nia, and how much was stimulated by Nia's principles and movement.
When I first took a Nia class, I have to say I was primed and ready for what Nia is all about. From the very first aerobic class I took in 1987, I knew that I felt better when I moved. I loved music, and that I had a knack for inspiring others to also move. Over the next 10 years I I had taught aerobics, all kinds, and lifted weights and ran generally 15 miles a week on top of 7 aerobic classes and weight lifting sessions. I was a fitness expert on the local News channel, and also a fitness trainer on a radio show called "Lose your belly with Kelly" where people would call in and ask for advice. I was all about fitness, and also very aware of external image and what they call in psychology as a "high self perceiver". I was also a hairdresser and had spent a lot of time helping people to look their best on the outside and listening to clients talk about their lives. You know this is part of every hairdressers job!
What started out as pleasure and movement began to change after 10 years of teaching. I noticed that what once I did to make me feel better, began to become a drug for me that was fueled with self loathing. I would run to burn calories, I would do aerobics to feel better about myself, I would lift weights so that I could feel "normal". Outside of fitness I found myself eating large amounts of food, only to plan in when I cold burn it off. I was driven by my weight, and always felt I wasn't in the range I wished to be. If only I looked more like I thought I should, then I would be happy! . On the surface, I appeared happy and healthy. Under the surface I was depressed, anxious, neurotic and not happy. I was fueled every day with self hatred, judgement on myself ( that also mirrored out to the world to others), and a feeling of being "stuck" and not in control, I had a lot of fear. I began to notice my unhappiness, and also noticed that for some of my students, movement was also a way of feeling "normal" or more connected to something that gave them peace. I knew from this that movement could be healing, and also that it touched me and my students on many different levels. From this I concurred that I would like to learn more about movement as a healing modality and signed up for 2 more years of college to prepare for a career change in physical therapy.
I was preparing to start college in Rochester NY when I saw an ad for a fitness center called "Feels Great Fitness". The ad had women and men of various ages, sizes and types all laughing a real authentic looking laugh, not the typical Barbie doll advertising with washboard ab models depicting the promise that you too can look like them if you join in ! I was intrigued. I went and took the class called "Nia" that was posted all over the schedule and walked away mystified. Between the music, the moves, and the uniqueness of the class, I for the first time, felt a stirring in me of something bigger. Was this my spirit? I knew then that this is what I was seeking. I wanted to connect with others on this level, I wanted to connect with MYSELF in this way. I have to admit, there were parts of the class that I was resistant too. First of all, the women and men where all a full range of sizes, with all kinds of body types, and the women with the fuller bodies moved confidently and wore clothes that showed off their curves, not hiding it. This was new for me. I also noticed how much I was accustomed to everyone dressing and looking alike and moving alike in the classes I taught. I had to be with my awkwardness, yet I knew it was healthy. These people in the class were open, creative, energized. I noticed how fluid other students moved, and openly expressive. Along with this these Nia students were so flexible and strong, after all the fitness I had done, I couldn't sit down in a squat with my tail down to the floor like many of the students of all ages could. I didn't like moving "freedance" style. I was so trained to move "aerobic like" that I had no idea how to move freely. I had lots of judgement about myself, and also was shamed by noticing how this judgement also went out on to others. I could feel my mind searching for a way to find some "order". Yet, something told me this was very healthy, and that I could grow through practice. I noticed my inherent need to feel a certain amount of pain as I exercised, and that I had become dependent on that to determine if I worked out "hard " enough. I became aware , for the first time, that there were different ways of perceiving the world. My way was not the only choice, and that I could notice my thoughts and change them. This was the beginning for me of a new way of living. I was still afraid, and wondered.....and the only thing that kept me moving forward on this path was trusting that what I felt in my body was really good. As my questions came forth, I kept returning to how my body felt, how calm I was after class.
Within six months I changed gears with my plans as my father became sick with a brain tumor. I quit school, returned home and helped take care of him through his last months. I still feel that the experience of those Nia classes opened a world for me that helped me to stay strong during this time of my life. I began to journal and explore my life. I tried to create a class I called "MBF- Movement , Balance, Flexibility" at a fitness studio I opened in the same building as my hair salon was. It was close, but didn't have the same feel as the Nia remembered at college. Soon after I married , moved to Sarasota, and became a Nia White Belt teacher in 2000. I felt like a fish out of water in the traditional fitness world. I had changed, those things that I used to do where no longer helping me, and I was spreading my wings in new territory. It was scary. It was my passion for knowing how much Nia helped me to connect to my body, my emotions, my spirit, that supported me in those times when I had no students and was paying rental in a space.
Today, you can pick up any magazine and read about mind body fitness. It's a trend. Pilates and Yoga are well known and hold less mystery. Yet, both of these modalities ( that I also teach and do feel their benefits are huge) don't offer much in the way of creativity and expressiveness ( both of which are know for their ability to heal). All of our joints need not only to open and close in their full range, but they need to open in a way that we live our lives, and we live our lives as emotional creatures. Emotions are information that tells us about our experience. Too often we become stuck in feeling only certain emotions, and fear is a prevalent one in this day and age. I Nia teaches us to trust the bodies natural healing mechanisms, to feel emotions, and even to celebrate them along with other parts of the body. This is a gradual process in Nia, it's not expected that you feel comfortable emoting to your hearts content on the first class or the 100th, but it is noticeable that this part of our selves is nurtured in every class. Like the subtleties of fine music, it's felt , this nuance. The effect of releasing long held tensions, is an emotional one. Strengthening to the point of being able to recognize an emotion and then to call on a different one to feel, is the agility of the heart center, another benefit I have developed from 9 years and now a black belt level Nia teacher.
Beyond all of this, Nia is a great cardiovascular sweat that you can receive without your feet leaving the floor, it's grounded. This kind of sweat and this deep breathing is necessary for the body and the brain to remain healthy. The joints are supported. The feet are awakened along with all the sensations of living in a body.
So what happens after 9 years of doing NIa? I have become more choosy through the years and that I feel was stimulated through my Nia practice. I no longer will do things that feel unhealthy for me, behaviors like eating foods that feel bad in my body, staying sedentary for more than a day, or doing one type of activity for too long ( like computer or television), or being away from nature for too long . My body has been conditioned to seek pleasure as a way of reaching excellence , and I have become conditioned to listen and respond. I appreciate life, nature, and the moment with reverence. I love and use music and silence as modalities to keep myself balanced, both of which I knew nothing about before Nia. I know that I can teach and practice Nia long into my future and that it has become a way of life for me.
I also feel eager to see the changes in my future, I don't fear them. Something happened in my process of learning to let go, release shame, to open and let my body lead me. The changes that have been supported by my Nia practice have all brought me to more pleasure in my body and mind, and have supported the changes that have happened around me and effected me ( including the death of my father, a divorce, a marriage and the births of 2 sons- both of which I danced right through all 8/9 months of ). I no longer use fitness as a way of avoiding life, but rather , through Nia , I use it as a way of integrating life and my body as one. So this is my positive evidence that Nia works. Thanks for listening! love, Kelly
First I wanted to send out an apology for not being more regular with the tidbits. I am feeling a lot these days that when my window of opportunity to write opens, it feels like my well is dry, and that I just need time to stare into space to clear the way. The second a creative inspiration comes in , my attention is needed somewhere else and the thought drifts out to the ethers. I wonder if this is what Attention Deficit feels like and I have a new empathy for that challenge. Thank goodness I have Nia to dance a connection to myself, or maybe I would become one of the many mothers I hear from that become so absorbed in their roles, that they forget to care for their own souls and then spend years later recovering!.
So this is one of the rare moments. I have been asked to write about why I teach Nia and feel so strongly about Nia as a fitness and well being practice. It's been an interesting process for me to consider who I was when I first took a Nia class, how I have changed, and what I love most about Nia now. I am considering how much of me changed naturally, whether I took/teach Nia, and how much was stimulated by Nia's principles and movement.
When I first took a Nia class, I have to say I was primed and ready for what Nia is all about. From the very first aerobic class I took in 1987, I knew that I felt better when I moved. I loved music, and that I had a knack for inspiring others to also move. Over the next 10 years I I had taught aerobics, all kinds, and lifted weights and ran generally 15 miles a week on top of 7 aerobic classes and weight lifting sessions. I was a fitness expert on the local News channel, and also a fitness trainer on a radio show called "Lose your belly with Kelly" where people would call in and ask for advice. I was all about fitness, and also very aware of external image and what they call in psychology as a "high self perceiver". I was also a hairdresser and had spent a lot of time helping people to look their best on the outside and listening to clients talk about their lives. You know this is part of every hairdressers job!
What started out as pleasure and movement began to change after 10 years of teaching. I noticed that what once I did to make me feel better, began to become a drug for me that was fueled with self loathing. I would run to burn calories, I would do aerobics to feel better about myself, I would lift weights so that I could feel "normal". Outside of fitness I found myself eating large amounts of food, only to plan in when I cold burn it off. I was driven by my weight, and always felt I wasn't in the range I wished to be. If only I looked more like I thought I should, then I would be happy! . On the surface, I appeared happy and healthy. Under the surface I was depressed, anxious, neurotic and not happy. I was fueled every day with self hatred, judgement on myself ( that also mirrored out to the world to others), and a feeling of being "stuck" and not in control, I had a lot of fear. I began to notice my unhappiness, and also noticed that for some of my students, movement was also a way of feeling "normal" or more connected to something that gave them peace. I knew from this that movement could be healing, and also that it touched me and my students on many different levels. From this I concurred that I would like to learn more about movement as a healing modality and signed up for 2 more years of college to prepare for a career change in physical therapy.
I was preparing to start college in Rochester NY when I saw an ad for a fitness center called "Feels Great Fitness". The ad had women and men of various ages, sizes and types all laughing a real authentic looking laugh, not the typical Barbie doll advertising with washboard ab models depicting the promise that you too can look like them if you join in ! I was intrigued. I went and took the class called "Nia" that was posted all over the schedule and walked away mystified. Between the music, the moves, and the uniqueness of the class, I for the first time, felt a stirring in me of something bigger. Was this my spirit? I knew then that this is what I was seeking. I wanted to connect with others on this level, I wanted to connect with MYSELF in this way. I have to admit, there were parts of the class that I was resistant too. First of all, the women and men where all a full range of sizes, with all kinds of body types, and the women with the fuller bodies moved confidently and wore clothes that showed off their curves, not hiding it. This was new for me. I also noticed how much I was accustomed to everyone dressing and looking alike and moving alike in the classes I taught. I had to be with my awkwardness, yet I knew it was healthy. These people in the class were open, creative, energized. I noticed how fluid other students moved, and openly expressive. Along with this these Nia students were so flexible and strong, after all the fitness I had done, I couldn't sit down in a squat with my tail down to the floor like many of the students of all ages could. I didn't like moving "freedance" style. I was so trained to move "aerobic like" that I had no idea how to move freely. I had lots of judgement about myself, and also was shamed by noticing how this judgement also went out on to others. I could feel my mind searching for a way to find some "order". Yet, something told me this was very healthy, and that I could grow through practice. I noticed my inherent need to feel a certain amount of pain as I exercised, and that I had become dependent on that to determine if I worked out "hard " enough. I became aware , for the first time, that there were different ways of perceiving the world. My way was not the only choice, and that I could notice my thoughts and change them. This was the beginning for me of a new way of living. I was still afraid, and wondered.....and the only thing that kept me moving forward on this path was trusting that what I felt in my body was really good. As my questions came forth, I kept returning to how my body felt, how calm I was after class.
Within six months I changed gears with my plans as my father became sick with a brain tumor. I quit school, returned home and helped take care of him through his last months. I still feel that the experience of those Nia classes opened a world for me that helped me to stay strong during this time of my life. I began to journal and explore my life. I tried to create a class I called "MBF- Movement , Balance, Flexibility" at a fitness studio I opened in the same building as my hair salon was. It was close, but didn't have the same feel as the Nia remembered at college. Soon after I married , moved to Sarasota, and became a Nia White Belt teacher in 2000. I felt like a fish out of water in the traditional fitness world. I had changed, those things that I used to do where no longer helping me, and I was spreading my wings in new territory. It was scary. It was my passion for knowing how much Nia helped me to connect to my body, my emotions, my spirit, that supported me in those times when I had no students and was paying rental in a space.
Today, you can pick up any magazine and read about mind body fitness. It's a trend. Pilates and Yoga are well known and hold less mystery. Yet, both of these modalities ( that I also teach and do feel their benefits are huge) don't offer much in the way of creativity and expressiveness ( both of which are know for their ability to heal). All of our joints need not only to open and close in their full range, but they need to open in a way that we live our lives, and we live our lives as emotional creatures. Emotions are information that tells us about our experience. Too often we become stuck in feeling only certain emotions, and fear is a prevalent one in this day and age. I Nia teaches us to trust the bodies natural healing mechanisms, to feel emotions, and even to celebrate them along with other parts of the body. This is a gradual process in Nia, it's not expected that you feel comfortable emoting to your hearts content on the first class or the 100th, but it is noticeable that this part of our selves is nurtured in every class. Like the subtleties of fine music, it's felt , this nuance. The effect of releasing long held tensions, is an emotional one. Strengthening to the point of being able to recognize an emotion and then to call on a different one to feel, is the agility of the heart center, another benefit I have developed from 9 years and now a black belt level Nia teacher.
Beyond all of this, Nia is a great cardiovascular sweat that you can receive without your feet leaving the floor, it's grounded. This kind of sweat and this deep breathing is necessary for the body and the brain to remain healthy. The joints are supported. The feet are awakened along with all the sensations of living in a body.
So what happens after 9 years of doing NIa? I have become more choosy through the years and that I feel was stimulated through my Nia practice. I no longer will do things that feel unhealthy for me, behaviors like eating foods that feel bad in my body, staying sedentary for more than a day, or doing one type of activity for too long ( like computer or television), or being away from nature for too long . My body has been conditioned to seek pleasure as a way of reaching excellence , and I have become conditioned to listen and respond. I appreciate life, nature, and the moment with reverence. I love and use music and silence as modalities to keep myself balanced, both of which I knew nothing about before Nia. I know that I can teach and practice Nia long into my future and that it has become a way of life for me.
I also feel eager to see the changes in my future, I don't fear them. Something happened in my process of learning to let go, release shame, to open and let my body lead me. The changes that have been supported by my Nia practice have all brought me to more pleasure in my body and mind, and have supported the changes that have happened around me and effected me ( including the death of my father, a divorce, a marriage and the births of 2 sons- both of which I danced right through all 8/9 months of ). I no longer use fitness as a way of avoiding life, but rather , through Nia , I use it as a way of integrating life and my body as one. So this is my positive evidence that Nia works. Thanks for listening! love, Kelly
Thursday, June 11, 2009
Nia tidibit #117
Hi everyone,
Happy Blue Electric Storm Day ! Blue Electric Storm is the "tribe" that today falls on in the Natural Time Calendar/Mayan Calendar. There are 20 tribes that are kind of like zodiac signs in that they each have meaning. It's a fun way to play with intention each day as the meanings for each tribe are a blend of eastern and western philosophy and spiritual growth concepts. Not all, but many Nia teachers like to follow this calendar. I will have ones for the new year for sale soon in class if you are interested.
So, today's Nia tidbit is inspired by Blue Storm ( this happens to be my partners sign- Sid). A key word for Blue Storm is self generation, catalyze and energy. Thunder, and a storm, is natures way of ushering in change. Change is natural, and consistently a part of life. We change as we age, relationships evolve and change, our roles change through life, friendships change, everyday subtle changes are there....and as much as staying the same feels safe, it's actually not good for our health physically or mentally to strive for same.
Before a change happens, whether it 's big or small, it's common that things have to become unsettled, disorienting, old constructs begin to feel unstable. It's the process of change, and the thunder is the clarifying energy that must happen. It's the contractions before the birth. Often this is the state of change that we resist, and it's easy to begin to grasp at familiarity. When this grasping happens , the body becomes tight, the joints dense. The shadow of Blue storm is being stuck, and repeating habits and addictions as a way to try to avoid reality.
This brings me to sensing stability in the body. The most important sensation of fitness is stability. It is from stability that we can reach new potentials of strength and flexibility. If you have ever injured a joint, you can re-call what extreme instability is felt like, and then how a new stability in another part compensates as the body heals. Though instability doesn't feel so good it's an important part of the process. Recognizing it and adjusting to find stability once agian. Stability in the body is felt like a radiating center and it's natural and necessary that stability is evolving continually. We must feel the sense of no stability to begin to seek stability and then we must not hang on to it. Being stiff, dense and stuck in the body is not stability. Stability is fluid, adaptable. It's being the eye of the storm. It has a feel of being able to change at any moment, a freedom and openess to choose. Stability is not constantly the same, it's dependent on instability to keep it alive.
For today, notice what is asking to change in your body/life. How do your joints feel? Invite the sensations of instability to come forth and notice your movement choices that bring you to a new subtle sense of being a radiant center. This can be from one joint, to a whole body sensation. As you bring yourself into feeling stability , you will be the center for others to also find their centers. If you come to Nia class tonight you'll have the opportunity to feel stability viscerally!
Love, Kelly
ps. Trainer Denise Medved had a thunder bolt go through her house 5 weeks ago. Wow...talk about change. Her house was 2/3 destroyed and she's living in a rental. We collected lot's of love during last week for her, and some extra money to replace her chatkas. She wanted me to express to you her deep gratitude and wonderment for being so loved and supported. Thank you everyone .........
Happy Blue Electric Storm Day ! Blue Electric Storm is the "tribe" that today falls on in the Natural Time Calendar/Mayan Calendar. There are 20 tribes that are kind of like zodiac signs in that they each have meaning. It's a fun way to play with intention each day as the meanings for each tribe are a blend of eastern and western philosophy and spiritual growth concepts. Not all, but many Nia teachers like to follow this calendar. I will have ones for the new year for sale soon in class if you are interested.
So, today's Nia tidbit is inspired by Blue Storm ( this happens to be my partners sign- Sid). A key word for Blue Storm is self generation, catalyze and energy. Thunder, and a storm, is natures way of ushering in change. Change is natural, and consistently a part of life. We change as we age, relationships evolve and change, our roles change through life, friendships change, everyday subtle changes are there....and as much as staying the same feels safe, it's actually not good for our health physically or mentally to strive for same.
Before a change happens, whether it 's big or small, it's common that things have to become unsettled, disorienting, old constructs begin to feel unstable. It's the process of change, and the thunder is the clarifying energy that must happen. It's the contractions before the birth. Often this is the state of change that we resist, and it's easy to begin to grasp at familiarity. When this grasping happens , the body becomes tight, the joints dense. The shadow of Blue storm is being stuck, and repeating habits and addictions as a way to try to avoid reality.
This brings me to sensing stability in the body. The most important sensation of fitness is stability. It is from stability that we can reach new potentials of strength and flexibility. If you have ever injured a joint, you can re-call what extreme instability is felt like, and then how a new stability in another part compensates as the body heals. Though instability doesn't feel so good it's an important part of the process. Recognizing it and adjusting to find stability once agian. Stability in the body is felt like a radiating center and it's natural and necessary that stability is evolving continually. We must feel the sense of no stability to begin to seek stability and then we must not hang on to it. Being stiff, dense and stuck in the body is not stability. Stability is fluid, adaptable. It's being the eye of the storm. It has a feel of being able to change at any moment, a freedom and openess to choose. Stability is not constantly the same, it's dependent on instability to keep it alive.
For today, notice what is asking to change in your body/life. How do your joints feel? Invite the sensations of instability to come forth and notice your movement choices that bring you to a new subtle sense of being a radiant center. This can be from one joint, to a whole body sensation. As you bring yourself into feeling stability , you will be the center for others to also find their centers. If you come to Nia class tonight you'll have the opportunity to feel stability viscerally!
Love, Kelly
ps. Trainer Denise Medved had a thunder bolt go through her house 5 weeks ago. Wow...talk about change. Her house was 2/3 destroyed and she's living in a rental. We collected lot's of love during last week for her, and some extra money to replace her chatkas. She wanted me to express to you her deep gratitude and wonderment for being so loved and supported. Thank you everyone .........
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Thanksgiving post
Hi everyone,
I love this time of year and Thanksgiving is my favorite all time holiday. Food, Family, Friends and festivities all blended into a day, yum yum....
I decided the other day to begin to notice why I say thank you through out the day. I invite you to explore this practice for yourself tomorrow. Here's what I noticed:
1. I say thank you ALOT. Sometimes not when I am feeling gratitude:0
2. I say thank because I want something done , as in , " Nate , PLEASE put your shoes on...THANK YOU".
3. I say thank you because I feel I am not worthy. I notice this when I say thank you at the end of every sentence. It's more of a way to feel I am giving something back, as in everything has to be balanced and if I don't have something I can give back, then I must say thank you over and over till the other person acknowledges my gratitude. This comes from my EGO:)
4. I say thank you to show I have "Good manners" ....ego, check....
5. I say thank you and express gratitude as a way to manipulate....ouch. "Thanks so much , that was great....now, would you go to the store for me?"
6. I say thank you when I am embarrassed or lack words to say something else...like after a compliment sometimes...
7. I say thank you when I genuinely am grateful and when I feel appreciated.
8. Finally......I am deeply thankful when I feel the emotion of gratitude so strong within.....This is how I feel to teach Nia. I feel such gratitude for the building community of Nia students and teachers. When I look into my sons' eyes, I feel something so deep and cherished, this is gratitude for real...It's tangible...and often I hold it back as it feels like it will overwhelm me, or embarrass the other. And sometimes I let it go ( this feeling) too quickly.
So, I humbly share this with you in hopes that it inspires your own awareness of "Thank you" and the emotion of gratitude. From this experiment I have discovered where I lapse out of authenticity, and I see where I can savor and deepen a connection to others and to myself.
Happy Thanks giving everyone! And a heartfelt Thank you for dancing with me....love, Kelly
I love this time of year and Thanksgiving is my favorite all time holiday. Food, Family, Friends and festivities all blended into a day, yum yum....
I decided the other day to begin to notice why I say thank you through out the day. I invite you to explore this practice for yourself tomorrow. Here's what I noticed:
1. I say thank you ALOT. Sometimes not when I am feeling gratitude:0
2. I say thank because I want something done , as in , " Nate , PLEASE put your shoes on...THANK YOU".
3. I say thank you because I feel I am not worthy. I notice this when I say thank you at the end of every sentence. It's more of a way to feel I am giving something back, as in everything has to be balanced and if I don't have something I can give back, then I must say thank you over and over till the other person acknowledges my gratitude. This comes from my EGO:)
4. I say thank you to show I have "Good manners" ....ego, check....
5. I say thank you and express gratitude as a way to manipulate....ouch. "Thanks so much , that was great....now, would you go to the store for me?"
6. I say thank you when I am embarrassed or lack words to say something else...like after a compliment sometimes...
7. I say thank you when I genuinely am grateful and when I feel appreciated.
8. Finally......I am deeply thankful when I feel the emotion of gratitude so strong within.....This is how I feel to teach Nia. I feel such gratitude for the building community of Nia students and teachers. When I look into my sons' eyes, I feel something so deep and cherished, this is gratitude for real...It's tangible...and often I hold it back as it feels like it will overwhelm me, or embarrass the other. And sometimes I let it go ( this feeling) too quickly.
So, I humbly share this with you in hopes that it inspires your own awareness of "Thank you" and the emotion of gratitude. From this experiment I have discovered where I lapse out of authenticity, and I see where I can savor and deepen a connection to others and to myself.
Happy Thanks giving everyone! And a heartfelt Thank you for dancing with me....love, Kelly
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